Thursday, March 29, 2007

Triangles in Relationships

I certainly enjoy exploring family life from a Systems’ Perspective. I realize that I am asking a lot out of you readers. A change from Linear to Systemic thinking is a huge paradigm shift. We are so used to thinking in straight lines that it is almost impossible to imagine that most things are connected. This is why even the basics of Economic theory are so difficult to understand. For example, the current fad of Americans to stop using so much Petrol in favor of Corn Based Fuels.

If we only look at the Corn to Fuel-Gasohol as a replacement for Petrol, it makes some sense. (A one to one Linear Replacement) However, when we consider all the Petrol energy that must be used to produce Gasohol, it is not seem so simple. Think of the system, not just trading one fuel for another fuel.

1. Corn is now being taken out of production for use by animals so corn is higher, meat is higher, meat will be imported from foreign nations demanding more Petrol to ship it over the seas.

2. The corn seed is also higher making growing food produced for cereals and other food products for people much higher.

3. It takes 1 and 1/2 gallons of Gasohol to provide enough power to go as far as only one gallon of Petrol. Thus, Gasohol costs considerably more than Petrol in terms of energy produced. Additionally, a gallon of Gasohol costs about 50 cents more than a gallon of Petrol. So, if a gallon of Petrol costs $2.50 and the Gasohol costs 50 cents more, we are already paying $3.00 per gallon for Gasohol and going only ¾ as far. That is a huge increase in the use of both our money and of energy.

4. Gasohol will not burn very well in cold weather, requiring us to make dramatic changes in fuel production, transportation and driving. This means that the fuel production plants must make different fuels and that is very costly.

When we look at things in their total system it is not so simple to make what seems to be a simple change from one product for another. It is like that for a diet. When we stop eating, the body system says, “Wow! We have hit a famine and I need to store more fat for the long winter.” The result may well be gaining weight.

I hope you get the picture.

Below is my opinion about how Triangles work. In this case, it is the Rescue/Responsible Triangle that suggests it is dangerous to try to Rescue a Victim from Persecutor for all too often the Victim will turn on the Rescuer and accuse them of being the real Persecutor who then feels like a Victim.

Saudi Arabia: Victim Triangles with Iraq: Persecutor and USA/Britain: Rescuer

The result? The Saudi’s blame us for being the Persecutors and we feel like Victims.

Read on:

"Custodian of the Two Holy Mosques King Abdullah yesterday lambasted the 'illegitimate foreign occupation' of Iraq by US-led forces and urged Arab leaders attending a historic summit in the Saudi capital not to allow foreign powers to determine the future course of the region," the Arab News reports from Riyadh:

In his keynote address opening the two-day summit, King Abdullah called upon Arab leaders to usher in a new era in Arab joint work while holding them accountable for disunity in the Arab world over the past decades.

"In Iraq, blood flows between brothers in the shadow of an illegitimate foreign occupation and hateful sectarianism, threatening a civil war," King Abdullah said after taking over the presidency of the 23-member Arab League from Sudan's President Omar Bashir.

This is the thanks we get for stationing our troops on the Arabian Peninsula for a dozen years to defend the occupying Saudi family from Saddam Hussein, and for remaining in Iraq, as, among other things, a check on Saudi Arabia's Shiite rival, Iran?

Well, yes, we suppose it is. Today's Saudi ingratitude is of a piece with Western European ingratitude during and after the Cold War. It's human nature, at least among those who are not mature enough to take responsibility for themselves, to resent those on whom one depends. Ask any parent of teenagers.

Gary's Opinion: Those who try to rescue their children from any situation deemed to be a Persecution will end up generating anger and rejection by the children.

I suggest that you order Family Ties That Bind as a good place to begin more study on the topic.

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